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I help women feel more confident to do more of the

I help women feel more confident to do more of the sh*t they want.
AND I created a free guide teaching you exactly HOW TO INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE.
Link is in my bio.

This is the work that I have done. It is the work I do with my clients.

Here is what you get inside:
... Why you struggle to feel confident when it seems like other don't.
... Why your lack of trust in yourself is killing your confidence - and how to build it back up.
... Why you already have more confidence than you realise.
... Why your fear of failure is keeping you stuck and how to get over it.
... Why you can go do something and fail at it, right now - and it'll be the best thing you can do to build your confidence.

Your confidence guide is waiting.Have a magical week my friend.
❤️ Huge love xx

I was a shy kid. When I left kindergarten to start

I was a shy kid.
When I left kindergarten to start school at age 5
My mum had to be asked to leave after spending a month solid trying to ‘settle’ me into class…
I was that shy.
I was the kid who hid when the teacher asked for volunteers.
I was the kid who went bright red anytime she was asked a question.
I was the kid who liked to go last.
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This shyness followed me right up to college.
Where I moved from my 200 kid country school to a roll of over 2000 girls.
Where my lack of confidence & low self-esteem only got worse…
Fast forward a few years and I had begun trying to act 'somewhat' confident, more so I was just trying to ‘fit-in’.
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If you had told me back then that one day I would be one of the most confident people I know…
I would have gone bright red and not said a dam word because I would have been to scared to tell you I didn’t believe you!
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One of the most valuable lessons I have learnt is that: Confidence doesn’t just come from doing a bunch of things.
It comes from believing in yourself.
Believing in who you are, what you are capable of and from having you own back no matter what.
And that is a skill available to us all...
Confidence isn’t knowing how to do something it’s knowing you will do what ever it takes to figure it out and supporting yourself through that process.
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Nobody is born without it.
It’s not something some people have & others don’t.
We all have the ability to learn to become more confident.
It’s in all of us ❤️

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be ha

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be happy?
I had left behind my house, a great job, all of my friends & my family
And moved to the other side of the world, to London to be exact
And I genuinely thought that in making such a big change in my life I would finally be happy.
Happiness was waiting for me in a big city full of opportunities and possibilities
Boy was I wrong.I was more miserable here than I was before.
And the only thing that was the same in all of this was ME
My job changed, my home changed, my country changed, my friends changed.
I was the only consistent thing here.
ME.
So if I couldn’t be happy here (where I really thought happiness would be found)
When was I ever going to be happy?I was so convicted that everything was happening to me.
Why does this keep happening?
Why does everyone else seem happy?
Why can’t I get a break?
This isn’t fair!
Why me?
I was 100% the victim in my own life…If you had of told me back then that I had all the power I needed to feel happy and that nothing outside of me needed to change… I would have looked at you sideways, laughed and walked away quickly.If you’d told me I would be sitting here today happier than ever before living in my home country, having not travelled in 6 months & spending winter at home whilst feeling so much love for myself and gratitude for everything in my life… I would have told you to go get help!But here we are… ❤️
Anything is possible.
We have all the power we need
And this is just the beginning.Have a beautiful weekend my friend xx

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be ha

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be happy?
I had left behind my house, a great job, all of my friends & my family
And moved to the other side of the world, to London to be exact
And I genuinely thought that in making such a big change in my life I would finally be happy.
Happiness was waiting for me in a big city full of opportunities and possibilities
Boy was I wrong.I was more miserable here than I was before.
And the only thing that was the same in all of this was ME
My job changed, my home changed, my country changed, my friends changed.
I was the only consistent thing here.
ME.
So if I couldn’t be happy here (where I really thought happiness would be found)
When was I ever going to be happy?I was so convicted that everything was happening to me.
Why does this keep happening?
Why does everyone else seem happy?
Why can’t I get a break?
This isn’t fair!
Why me?
I was 100% the victim in my own life…If you had of told me back then that I had all the power I needed to feel happy and that nothing outside of me needed to change… I would have looked at you sideways, laughed and walked away quickly.If you’d told me I would be sitting here today happier than ever before living in my home country, having not travelled in 6 months & spending winter at home whilst feeling so much love for myself and gratitude for everything in my life… I would have told you to go get help!But here we are… ❤️
Anything is possible.
We have all the power we need
And this is just the beginning.Have a beautiful weekend my friend xx

The power in believing.... I was single for the lo

The power in believing....
I was single for the longest time
I believed I was busy working on me
Focusing on the relationship I had with myself
And I was… I got really good at being me
Enjoying time on my own, learning what I liked & didn’t like, growing my own self belief and confidence, becoming the woman I wanted to be…
I was busy being me, figuring me out, working on me.
So busy that I wasn’t open to believing that I was ready to be in a relationship.
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The very thought that shifted everything for me was when I decided: It would be nice to share life with someone.
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I started imaging making a meal with someone
Enjoying a weekend away with them
Snuggling them
Talking about how our days were
All the little things that I wanted from sharing life with someone...
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And I became more open and willing to meet someone
I showed up differently
I started saying yes to more things I was invited to
I started actively trying to meet more people
I took action to put myself in front of a potential match
I joined dating apps
And I just kept thinking it would be nice to share life with someone.
I really believed it
I enjoy being on my now & sharing life with me AND it would be equally as nice to share my life with someone else.
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Shifting my belief from: "I am busy working on me."
Too: "It would be nice to share life with someone."
Is what made it truly possible.
I started believing it would be fun, that I could find someone, that it was available to me, that I didn’t have to change anything about me but that I could find someone to just enjoy my life with…
Shifting my belief is what allowed me to find that someone.
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When I believed I was working on me. I was closed off - I wasn’t allowing myself to meet anyone…
And when I get really honest sometimes I liked to indulge in the idea of having someone else then my brain would shut me down with “But you don’t need a man! You are busy working on you! You don’t need anyone else to make you happy!”
Believing I was working on me is what kept me single for 10 years.
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And now I am getting to work questioning some of my other long standing beliefs… Are they serving me? Are the producing the results & life I want? ❤️

I was an over-thinker for as long as I can remembe

I was an over-thinker for as long as I can remember.
I would analyse all of my conversations and interactions and create elaborate (usually negative) stories in my head.
I would worry about what others were thinking about me or saying about me behind my back
I would worry about being liked and fitting in
I would spin out in my own brain making their words, sideways looks or off-day mean something about me
My overanalysing and overthinking always came from a place of worry, fear or anxiety.
And this over-analysing can be a real dream killer!
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I had a friend recently who took a text I sent her waaaay out of context.
I was asking her a simple question (or so I thought)
But her brain went into overthinking and analysing why I was asking and what I was implying.
It made me remember just how easy it is for us to do this.
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There is a part of us that is wired to want to fit in.
We have evolved from our cave-women days to want to be a part of the pack out of a need for our survival.
My over thinking always came from a place of wanting to fit in an d trying to do so by people please.
And at the time it was sometimes completely unconscious (like an automatic habit).
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Yesterday I had a new experience that would have in the past let my mind go wild with overthinking and analysing… and it didn’t.
I consciously decided how I want to think and therefore feel about it and moved on.
“This was exactly how this was meant to happen”
“This is a good outcome”
Period.
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I’m not going to sit here and tell you this was an easy place to get to or that I will always do this from now on …
BUT it has been a worthwhile journey and is one that is taking me in the direction of the women I want to become. One who doesn’t overthink or analyse from a place of people pleasing or being overly self-critical.
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To all my fellow over-thinkers ❤️ I get you & this place does exist!

The world needs more confident + powerful women T

The world needs more confident + powerful women
The women who fight for their dreamsWho stand up for what they believe in
Who love themselves no matter whatWho won’t settle for any less than they deserveWho know in their bones they are 100% worthy & enough exactly as they areThe women who fall down & get back up againThe women who lift other women upThe women who are an example of what is possible alwaysThe kind of women who does the hard & uncomfortable things in the way of what she wantsThe kind of women who take risksThe kind of women who invest in themselves & their dreamsWho stand tall, shoulders back, head high, even in the face of negativityWho never question their own self worth
Who love their people unconditionally
Who aren’t afraid to raise their hand and voice their opinions
Who ask for what she wants and what she knows she deserves .This powerful & confident woman is inside all of us.Including you. ❤️👊

As girls we are raised to avoid risk and failure a

As girls we are raised to avoid risk and failure and to strive for perfection
Boys on the other hand are taught to climb trees, take risks and are rewarded for it…
I’m reading a book right now that speaks to me on SO many levels.
It address how society teaches girls to shy away from anything that requires them to get it wrong, anything that has the opportunity for failure, anything that will be less than perfect…
THIS BOOK IS SO ON POINT!
We need to encourage more of our fellow women to be brave, to teach our girls to be brave, to strive for imperfection and embrace failure.
To celebrate our failures & our willingness to be courageous & bold.
And to lead by example in doing this.
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I teach my clients to fail on purpose. Deliberate, planned, fails.
Because FAILURE IS REQUIRED IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE OUR DREAMS.
It is necessary.
We can not make our dreams come to life with out it.
And doin this requires us to be brave, to be courageous & to stand up for what we want. .
If this speaks to you then I HIGHLY recommend this book & also her TED talk:
Brave Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani - Fear less, fail more & live bolder
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HELL YES LADIES! 👊❤️

I haven’t always been confident in-fact most of

I haven’t always been confident in-fact most of my life I was the opposite. I lacked confidence big time, had very low self-esteem and doubted myself constantly… I would never in a million years have come on Instagram and posted something vulnerable about myself with y’all.
There are two types of confidence. Confidence from having done something - Let’s say driving a car. If you drive a car often you will likely be confident, you’ll know you can drive and have no doubts in your abilities to do it. And then there is SELF-Confidence… Self-Confidence comes from the thoughts & beliefs you have about yourself. Self-confidence is built on the relationship you have with yourself. You don’t have to have done something before in order to be confident in your ability to figure it our & have your own back no matter what.
In this FREE 5 day training series starting on Monday 15th June - I am teaching you EXACTLY step by step how to increase your self-confidence. As a coach this is the work I do with my clients AND I am sharing it all for free right here during this training!!
AND I will be doing this work right along with you, every step of the way! I will be sharing my own break-throughs my own thoughts and feelings and the ways I generate my self-confidence. I will be sharing my own daily work as we complete each days task.
If you want to increase your confidence then I invite you to come & join us!
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Safety is not just a physical thing… It is an e

Safety is not just a physical thing…
It is an emotion we feel in our bodies.
We ‘feel’ safe or we feel unsafe.
Think about wearing a life jacket whilst on a boat in the middle of a lake…
You can feel safe by thinking this life jacket will help me if anything goes wrong.
OR you could think life jackets are useless if I fall over board I’m screwed and not feel safe at all.
Same goes when we travel solo.
We get to feel safe by what we choose to think.
What we choose to think about the city we are in, about the people, about the places we visit… determines how safe we will feel.
Often we think our safety is determine by what other people have said or experienced or what other people say or do… But it’s how we interrupt that information that determines how safe we feel.
I remember being in Rio having heard so many negative things about traveling solo as woman there and about how unsafe it was…
I was super cautious, I took precautions to keep myself as safe as possible by not wearing flashy jewellery, not waiving my phone around (being careful when taking photos or using it), by wearing my bag across the front of my body AND at no point did I feel scared and unsafe because I was consciously thinking ‘I am cautious and prepared but I’m also going to have fun & enjoy it here in Rio’. Often when we are so focused on our safety we can be overly focused on why we may not be safe - our brains will always seek evidence to prove our thoughts true so when we are thinking ‘it isn’t safe for me here in Rio as a woman travelling alone’ we start to look for reasons why, prove it true for ourselves and scare ourselves.
We get to feel safe or unsafe by what we choose to think.
Here are a few thoughts of mine you may like to borrow or tweak for your next solo travel adventure: - The majority of people are good, kind people with families at home
- I am always careful and aware when I travel - I have prepared myself by doing my research, now I am going to enjoy my trip
- I get to decide how interpret other peoples words & actions
- I am safeWould love to hear from YOU and how you feel safe whilst travelling solo?
Huge Love, Xena xx

Supporting #blacklivesmatter and the women of colo

Supporting #blacklivesmatter and the women of colour in this community.
I am white and I am antiracist. .
As women here inside this community I think most of us will agree that we have seen or experienced sexism. .
I have been told I can’t do things or shouldn’t do things because I am a woman.
Solo travel is a prime example…
Society has implied this through movies, TV shows, news articles and various other media streams that because I am a women I am on the backfoot, I have a disadvantage, I have to prove myself and earn a seat at the table.
We have grown up absorbing negative messages from society about women.
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AND believe me when I say we have also grown up in this same world absorbing negative messages about blackness (and all people of colour) and we have received positive messages about whiteness.
On my run this morning I was thinking about this and a movie I remember watching that is a prime example of this very thing… Captain Phillips with Tom Hanks (and there are plenty more). .
This does not mean we are racist or that we are bad people because of the way we have been raised in society. .
But it does make ME want to take a step back and look at my own belief systems and the messages I/we have received growing up… .
I read yesterday that for black women travelling they not only have to research what women need to know in that country but also what a person of colour needs to know - what is racism like in the countries you want to visit. .
Alot of us resist and avoid these conversations because we wither feel guilt & shame about not knowing what to say OR out of fear of not wanting to do or say the wrong thing and wanting to people please…
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I am no expert here. But I am learning and I am willing to have these conversations and I am willing to say or do the wrong thing in order to learn more about how best to support the black women (and all women of colour) inside our community. ❤️Huge love, Xena
Founder of Solo Women Travel Tribe 👊👊🏼👊🏽👊🏾👊🏿

It has been drummed into us since starting kinderg

It has been drummed into us since starting kindergarten. Don’t fail, failure is bad. And as teenagers we depend upon not failing in order to be considered socially acceptable as we strive for popularity. .
We use our fear of failure as a reason not to pursue our dreams and to hold ourselves back from the amazing lives we are meant to live. .
So this might be hard to hear…
FAILURE IS REQUIRED IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS.
It is necessary.
You can not make your dreams come to life with out it.
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This was a hard pill for me to swallow.
I grew up associating failure with weakness.
I didn’t want to be seen as weak so I would never be seen to fail.
As a result I was secretly full of self-doubt without an ounce of self-confidence to my name.
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Thinking that failure makes us feel less confident is a straight up lie.
Remember self-confidence is a feeling, coming from our thoughts about ourselves and our abilities.
So the more we fail the more we get to learn and grow.
When shit hits the fan (& it always does) we get to evaluate and learn.
We get to grow stronger & more resilient from it AND we get to build trust in ourselves when we keep going. When we take what we learnt from that failure and keep moving toward our goal.
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What ever dream you want to pursue. Whatever amazing things you want to accomplish or create…
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You are 100% guaranteed to NOT get there, if you never try.
When you take no action towards it, you fail ahead of time.
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When you are so busy thinking ‘I don’t know if it will work’ you are busy failing ahead of time. .
And the more you do this, the more you lose trust in yourself and shut down your self-confidence. .
So what’s the solution here? >>> F.A.I.L
Yes. Plan to fail.
Fail on purpose.
Fail deliberately. .
How many times are you willing to fail in order to succeed? If you knew without a shadow of a doubt you would eventually get to your gaol… how many times would you be welling to fail? For me it’s as many dam times as it takes to get there! .
Because here’s the thing…
Every time you fail, you learn, you grow.
You show yourself you can do some pretty challenging and amazing shit.
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