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Ever had that vague feeling that life could be bet

Ever had that vague feeling that life could be better?
Or something’s wrong, but you can’t put your finger on it…?
You are not alone.
This was me.
Thinking things should be better, that I should be happier and further along in life.Luckily I found someone who told me that my thoughts were the cause of my feelings AND ultimately those thoughts created my results too.
This blew my mind!
No wonder I felt shitty all the time…
No wonder I kept creating the same thing over and over...
No wonder I never felt like I was getting anywhere...I don't know about you but I wasn't taught this at home or in school...
So if this is you too: You are not broken. You are not doing ‘life’ wrong. You are 100% human.Changing our thoughts changes the way we feel
Changing our thoughts changes our results.
Changing our thoughts is simple (but not easy).
And this is where coaching comes in.Coaching is a series of discussions between two people.
Its purpose is to guide you to more success, happiness and wellbeing than you are currently experiencing.As a coach I am concerned with choosing where you want to be and how to get there.Together we are exploring your thoughts, feelings and actions to promote learning and
Positive results. You will learn to improve to be more confident, motivated and proactive, handle stress, cultivate self-discipline, create a positive mindset and change unproductive behaviours.Are you ready to experience Coaching?
Click here to schedule a free coaching consultation call.
This might be exactly wheat you have been looking for…Have a magical week my friend.

‼️ ANNOUNCEMENT ‼️ I have decided to shift

‼️ ANNOUNCEMENT ‼️
I have decided to shift the direction of our tribe to include BOTH the external and internal solo journeys we experience.
Right now the majority of us can not travel & we certainly can not travel freely around the world. So with that comes many mental challenges and many opportunities for growth.
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Our Tribe has always been a safe place to talk about our fears when travelling alone, our challenges both mental & physical as well as the anxiety and self-doubt we have had along the way and this remains a safe & supportive place for that AS WELL AS these experiences in our day to day lives right now.
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The greatest journey ever is the one of self discovery.
Getting to know you
Getting to like you & love you
Getting to trust you, having your own back no matter what
And what better time then now (thank you Covid) to further experience this journey…
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You may have noticed recently a lot more posts from myself & others in the space of positivity, mental wellbeing, coaching, confidence, overcoming our obstacles or challenges and many other such topics. AND I want to encourage more of these AND I too will be sharing more & encouraging these discussions.
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This does not mean we stop sharing our travel experiences, asking questions or sharing our plans for current and future trips on the contrary it now opens up a wider discussion and safe & supportive place for the internal & external journeys we are all going through…
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Huge ❤️ love
Xena xx

Friends are getting married, having babies, buying

Friends are getting married, having babies, buying houses and I’m over here like… WHAT!?.Society implies that we ‘should’ go to college, get a degree, get a good job, settle down, buy a house, get married and have 2.5 kids.We may not agree with it (I sure don’t nor do I live by it) BUT we can’t argue that it isn’t implied throughout life..So when a friend announces she’s getting married or she’s expecting a baby or they have just found their forever home… We can’t help but feel that pull of "should I be doing that too?!”.“Where is my Prince Charming? Why haven’t I settled down yet? Is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to do it that way?… or for not wanting that at all!? “.No.There is nothing wrong with you.AND there is no right way to do YOUR LIFE.There is no this way is better or that way is worse.And you aren’t a bad person for thinking “why haven’t I got that yet.”.What do YOU want?Not what you think you should do or haveWhat do YOU want?Be honest.Maybe you want all of it or some of it or none of it….❗️Don’t use someone else’s life circumstances as a reason to feel bad about yourself.Use it as a reason to get clear on what you want and how you are going to make that happen for yourself.Use it as inspiration.❤️✨

If you had asked my 5 years ago how the relationsh

If you had asked my 5 years ago how the relationship I have with myself is… I’d have given you a confused blank stare.I didn’t have one, or at least I wasn’t aware of the one I did have.I spent a lot of time hanging out in self-doubt, feeling insecure and loathing my bodyI wasn’t enjoying being me let alone working on building a relationship with myself..Do we know, like and trust ourselves…?.We build relationships with others in this way - we make friends with people we know, like and trust.In sales and selling our services we are encouraged to create know, like and trust for out potential clients.But when are we taught to know, like and trust ourselves?.The reality is that we aren’t and self-discovery is a path we often just find ourselves on one day (a powerful & magical path, I will add!)..Because let’s be honest we can’t get away from ourselves, we are always here! 😬😆.So why not enjoy being ourselves, why not have a powerful and loving relationship with ourself? (what do we have to lose really...?).We set the standard for others based on how we treat ourselves.We set the standard for respect, for love, for kindness for all of it.. based on how we show up for ourselves..The relationship we have with ourselves is THE most important relationship we have...❤️✨

What’s keeping you from having the life you want

What’s keeping you from having the life you want?
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You have to do something you don’t want to do or don’t understand?
YES. You do.
That’s the process. For everything.
Even learning how to walk, learning how to drive a car.
Good news. You nailed that. So you can totally do this.
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You don’t have time?
YES. Of course.
Not having what you want is taking all your time. You can give what you don’t want your time, or you can give what you DO want your time. Either way, your time will feel used up.
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It’s going to cost money?
Of course it is.
This isn’t a cheap solution that doesn’t work and you quit on it as soon as you get started. This isn’t that thing you bought on Amazon and donated to Goodwill a month later. This is your dream.
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Life is 50/50.
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We can feel shitty getting what we don’t want. Or getting what we DO want.
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The time, effort, and money are all the same either way.
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Don’t make this harder than it is.
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This isn’t the hard part.
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The hard part is feeling confident enough to say YES to yourself.✊❤️🙌
P.S - ready to invest in yourself & your dreams? Schedule a consult call with me and let’s chat! (Link in bio)

Say it with me!! 🙌❤️✊

Say it with me!! 🙌❤️✊

I help women feel more confident to do more of the

I help women feel more confident to do more of the sh*t they want.
AND I created a free guide teaching you exactly HOW TO INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE.
Link is in my bio.

This is the work that I have done. It is the work I do with my clients.

Here is what you get inside:
... Why you struggle to feel confident when it seems like other don't.
... Why your lack of trust in yourself is killing your confidence - and how to build it back up.
... Why you already have more confidence than you realise.
... Why your fear of failure is keeping you stuck and how to get over it.
... Why you can go do something and fail at it, right now - and it'll be the best thing you can do to build your confidence.

Your confidence guide is waiting.Have a magical week my friend.
❤️ Huge love xx

I was a shy kid. When I left kindergarten to start

I was a shy kid.
When I left kindergarten to start school at age 5
My mum had to be asked to leave after spending a month solid trying to ‘settle’ me into class…
I was that shy.
I was the kid who hid when the teacher asked for volunteers.
I was the kid who went bright red anytime she was asked a question.
I was the kid who liked to go last.
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This shyness followed me right up to college.
Where I moved from my 200 kid country school to a roll of over 2000 girls.
Where my lack of confidence & low self-esteem only got worse…
Fast forward a few years and I had begun trying to act 'somewhat' confident, more so I was just trying to ‘fit-in’.
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If you had told me back then that one day I would be one of the most confident people I know…
I would have gone bright red and not said a dam word because I would have been to scared to tell you I didn’t believe you!
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One of the most valuable lessons I have learnt is that: Confidence doesn’t just come from doing a bunch of things.
It comes from believing in yourself.
Believing in who you are, what you are capable of and from having you own back no matter what.
And that is a skill available to us all...
Confidence isn’t knowing how to do something it’s knowing you will do what ever it takes to figure it out and supporting yourself through that process.
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Nobody is born without it.
It’s not something some people have & others don’t.
We all have the ability to learn to become more confident.
It’s in all of us ❤️

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be ha

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be happy?
I had left behind my house, a great job, all of my friends & my family
And moved to the other side of the world, to London to be exact
And I genuinely thought that in making such a big change in my life I would finally be happy.
Happiness was waiting for me in a big city full of opportunities and possibilities
Boy was I wrong.I was more miserable here than I was before.
And the only thing that was the same in all of this was ME
My job changed, my home changed, my country changed, my friends changed.
I was the only consistent thing here.
ME.
So if I couldn’t be happy here (where I really thought happiness would be found)
When was I ever going to be happy?I was so convicted that everything was happening to me.
Why does this keep happening?
Why does everyone else seem happy?
Why can’t I get a break?
This isn’t fair!
Why me?
I was 100% the victim in my own life…If you had of told me back then that I had all the power I needed to feel happy and that nothing outside of me needed to change… I would have looked at you sideways, laughed and walked away quickly.If you’d told me I would be sitting here today happier than ever before living in my home country, having not travelled in 6 months & spending winter at home whilst feeling so much love for myself and gratitude for everything in my life… I would have told you to go get help!But here we are… ❤️
Anything is possible.
We have all the power we need
And this is just the beginning.Have a beautiful weekend my friend xx

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be ha

If I can’t be happy here, when will I ever be happy?
I had left behind my house, a great job, all of my friends & my family
And moved to the other side of the world, to London to be exact
And I genuinely thought that in making such a big change in my life I would finally be happy.
Happiness was waiting for me in a big city full of opportunities and possibilities
Boy was I wrong.I was more miserable here than I was before.
And the only thing that was the same in all of this was ME
My job changed, my home changed, my country changed, my friends changed.
I was the only consistent thing here.
ME.
So if I couldn’t be happy here (where I really thought happiness would be found)
When was I ever going to be happy?I was so convicted that everything was happening to me.
Why does this keep happening?
Why does everyone else seem happy?
Why can’t I get a break?
This isn’t fair!
Why me?
I was 100% the victim in my own life…If you had of told me back then that I had all the power I needed to feel happy and that nothing outside of me needed to change… I would have looked at you sideways, laughed and walked away quickly.If you’d told me I would be sitting here today happier than ever before living in my home country, having not travelled in 6 months & spending winter at home whilst feeling so much love for myself and gratitude for everything in my life… I would have told you to go get help!But here we are… ❤️
Anything is possible.
We have all the power we need
And this is just the beginning.Have a beautiful weekend my friend xx

The power in believing.... I was single for the lo

The power in believing....
I was single for the longest time
I believed I was busy working on me
Focusing on the relationship I had with myself
And I was… I got really good at being me
Enjoying time on my own, learning what I liked & didn’t like, growing my own self belief and confidence, becoming the woman I wanted to be…
I was busy being me, figuring me out, working on me.
So busy that I wasn’t open to believing that I was ready to be in a relationship.
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The very thought that shifted everything for me was when I decided: It would be nice to share life with someone.
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I started imaging making a meal with someone
Enjoying a weekend away with them
Snuggling them
Talking about how our days were
All the little things that I wanted from sharing life with someone...
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And I became more open and willing to meet someone
I showed up differently
I started saying yes to more things I was invited to
I started actively trying to meet more people
I took action to put myself in front of a potential match
I joined dating apps
And I just kept thinking it would be nice to share life with someone.
I really believed it
I enjoy being on my now & sharing life with me AND it would be equally as nice to share my life with someone else.
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Shifting my belief from: "I am busy working on me."
Too: "It would be nice to share life with someone."
Is what made it truly possible.
I started believing it would be fun, that I could find someone, that it was available to me, that I didn’t have to change anything about me but that I could find someone to just enjoy my life with…
Shifting my belief is what allowed me to find that someone.
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When I believed I was working on me. I was closed off - I wasn’t allowing myself to meet anyone…
And when I get really honest sometimes I liked to indulge in the idea of having someone else then my brain would shut me down with “But you don’t need a man! You are busy working on you! You don’t need anyone else to make you happy!”
Believing I was working on me is what kept me single for 10 years.
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And now I am getting to work questioning some of my other long standing beliefs… Are they serving me? Are the producing the results & life I want? ❤️

I was an over-thinker for as long as I can remembe

I was an over-thinker for as long as I can remember.
I would analyse all of my conversations and interactions and create elaborate (usually negative) stories in my head.
I would worry about what others were thinking about me or saying about me behind my back
I would worry about being liked and fitting in
I would spin out in my own brain making their words, sideways looks or off-day mean something about me
My overanalysing and overthinking always came from a place of worry, fear or anxiety.
And this over-analysing can be a real dream killer!
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I had a friend recently who took a text I sent her waaaay out of context.
I was asking her a simple question (or so I thought)
But her brain went into overthinking and analysing why I was asking and what I was implying.
It made me remember just how easy it is for us to do this.
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There is a part of us that is wired to want to fit in.
We have evolved from our cave-women days to want to be a part of the pack out of a need for our survival.
My over thinking always came from a place of wanting to fit in an d trying to do so by people please.
And at the time it was sometimes completely unconscious (like an automatic habit).
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Yesterday I had a new experience that would have in the past let my mind go wild with overthinking and analysing… and it didn’t.
I consciously decided how I want to think and therefore feel about it and moved on.
“This was exactly how this was meant to happen”
“This is a good outcome”
Period.
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I’m not going to sit here and tell you this was an easy place to get to or that I will always do this from now on …
BUT it has been a worthwhile journey and is one that is taking me in the direction of the women I want to become. One who doesn’t overthink or analyse from a place of people pleasing or being overly self-critical.
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To all my fellow over-thinkers ❤️ I get you & this place does exist!

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